Wedding Diaries: The First Dance Dread

Awkward shuffles, mash-ups, cringey routines, drunken sways: what’s yours to be?

Of all the wedding traditions, this is one I really wasn’t keen to do. I’m not a natural dancer (very few of us are I think…?), but even if I was Britney, I still would have dreaded that first dance:

So just stand there, dance, look in love, look as if you are unaware everyone is looking at you, pretend to enjoy everyone snapping away at you. Naaaa

Our first dance:

Mr DTE and I declined a mash-up. We were not tempted by the cringe. Instead, we finally opted for a song that meant the world to us and just shuffled around the dance floor for about 30 seconds until everyone joined us and the pressure was off. We won’t be a YouTube hit, but I think that’s ok by us.

The day before our wedding we suddenly realised we hadn’t practised our 30-second shuffle at all and that we needed to practise our short-lived ‘stand and sway around the dance floor’. Oh my god it was a disaster. I kept treading on Mr DTE’s feet, we were both dancing to different beats; it looked like a Year 7 disco. In retrospect we probably should have practised sooner than the day before our wedding but…better late than never. I’m just glad we didn’t get bogged down in it too much. It’s 30 seconds of a whole day, let’s keep our perspective bridelings.

Actual chat: ‘Is it time for everyone to come and join us yet??’

Top tip: Our last dance song was just as lovely as our first., but in a way it was more enjoyable because the pressure is off by then. I would really recommend spending a few mins thinking about that too. One of my loveliest wedding moments was dancing to this at the end with my hubbie, sis, brother-in-law, ma and pa in a big old drunken hug. Elvis, you still the man.

Playing it cool:

Some great friends of ours (whose glamping wedding at Fforest was just swell) had this song as their first wedding dance: 

So. Dang. Cool. I’ve heard hilarious tales of couples having this very same song and actually doing the Pulp Fiction moves. I’m not sure Mr DTE and I are cool enough for that, but if you are then it sure would be one for the grandkids. Coolest grandparents eveeeer!  

Mash it up?

I’ve tried. Really hard. However, a mash-up choreographed dance just isn’t my bag. Soz. I just can’t handle all that cringe. There are some hilarious ones on YouTube though if you have a few hours to spare/in need of some procrastinating from wedding planning. Click here to view.
Top tip: grab a pillow to hide behind.

My favourite first dance tunes:

Here is a list of my favourite first dance songs that our loved ones have had at their weddings – just the right blend of love and fun without the cringe:

All I want is you (Barry Louis Polisar)

You and Me Song – The Wannadies

Lumineers – Hey Ho Song

Whitney Houston – I wanna dance with somebody

Fleetwood Mac – Everywhere

What’s the big deal?

After all of this though, I would say the first dance really is not a big deal. Of all the things to worry about on your wedding day, I really don’t think this is one. If your whole day is over in a flash, this bit lasts a mili-second. No stress yo. The real fun comes after the first dance – a whole dance floor of your mates and your hand-picked toons. WINNING. More on that soon…

Happy dancing yo ✌🏻 

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I'm a 32 year-old newlywed bride, living in London. I recently got married (July 2016) and am here to spread wedding joy and worldly wedding advice to fellow bridelings who don't want their weddings to take over their lives. Let's laugh (nervously) in the face of bonkers wedding planning!

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