One of the reasons I started ‘Down-to-earth Brides’ was to show the realistic side of wedding planning. The unglamorous side. The side that I feel we need to talk about, and share, so that we know we’re not the only ones feeling overwhelmed and clueless at times.
So, after asking my gaggle of mates about their Top 10 Wedding Tips, I went back and asked them ‘Were there any parts of the wedding planning that you found a pain in the arse?’ Ever the honest, down-to-earth brides, I thought you might be interested to see their responses:
Those intricate details:
Some last minute logistical questions came along, casually dropped into conversation by various people, which weren’t full of fun……
‘How will great Auntie Doris manage the church steps?’
‘Who is going in what taxi at what time?’
‘What happens if the DJ is ill on the day?’ etc etc.
It didn’t help that we had no idea what the answers were.
Bye bye plus ones:
Other people drove me mad!! I got the most grief from disgruntled guests who wanted to invite new girlfriends, ‘friends’ and random people I’ve never met. I was quite clear that we only wanted people we know well and love there, so I found that difficult. And my dad texting me on the day worrying about his lady friend getting to the wedding by herself…not really my priority.
The search for the PERFECT wedding dress:
Controversially I’d have to say the part of the wedding planning I enjoyed the least was the search for the wedding dress.
I found the whole search for ‘the one’ really stressful, there is so much pressure to find the ‘perfect dress’ and for everyone to cry when they see you in ‘the one’ that I just didn’t enjoy it. I did indeed find ‘the one’ and everyone did cry and my dress was perfect for me but I don’t believe this is the case for everyone and the pressure on the bride really is immense.
I was so relieved when I found my dress that I ended my search there and then and happily cancelled all my other subsequent appointments.
The sense of guilt:
Whenever I sat down to watch TV or just scroll through Instagram (hours, hours wasted on Instagram) I felt guilty that I should be researching confetti or doing something stressy and bride-related. All I wanted to do was watch Corrie and chill.
The seating plan
Accommodating surprise last minute guests as well as the intricacies of not seating people together who were divorced/old flames, etc!
Down-to-earth Bride advice: If you want to take a leaf out of my book, give yourself an hour to do it. Be decisive, don’t use fancy online software. Keep it simple, then leave it for a day and come back to it and again don’t spend hours and hours on it. Accept that you won’t get it ‘perfect’, but give it a good old bash and then continue with your life.
Um, most of it?
Not really, I liked thinking about getting married but I wasn’t very good on the details. Our parents were great but they did ask a lot of ‘have you thought about…?’ and ‘what about…?’ questions which were fair enough, but normally I hadn’t thought about whatever it was and that was a little stressful.
I think I possibly took too much of a laidback ‘it’ll take care of itself’ approach, though I think most everything came together on the day (probably no thanks to me).
If you haven’t experienced any of these things above, then congratulations. You are a wonderfully lucky bride; go forth and collect £50 as you pass GO!
However, if you have experienced any of these, or anything else similar, that’s ok. You’re not alone. Handle it however you think is best, and I’m sure you’ll have done a great job. We’re not the first people to get married and we’re definitely NOT going to be the last…
I’m trying not to sweat this kinda thing, but apparently being a ‘down-to-earth bride’ is not a 24/7 thing with me. Ms DTE comes and goes when she wants…apparently always taking a trip away whenever Mr DTE is around. Oops.
We’re in this together, sistas. If you have any aches and pains of being a kick-ass bride, just send me in your stories. And know that you are not alone, and your wedding WILL be wonderbar!
Have a wonderful weekend. You are all da bomb.
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