Wedding dresses: is there too much pressure to find ‘the one’?

Have you found the search for a wedding dress the most stressful part of wedding planning? Grab a coffee and let’s chill out…

A close friend of mine (and fellow down-to-earth bride) is currently wedding dress shopping. After a day of trying on dresses, she texted me asking:

Did you know when you’d found THE ONE??

Ohmygad, this sounds like the search for a hubbie, no?? ‘The one’, ‘soulmate’, whatever you call it – it seems that this pressure doesn’t just stop with finding a partner these days, but also with ‘the dress’.

The films all tell us that there is ‘the one’ wedding dress out there for us. They tell us that when we try it on there will be tears from everyone in sight, even the boutique assistants. That’s quite a lot of pressure, no?! I’m sure wedding boutique owners are sliiiightly too busy to cry at EVERY appointment they take on.

Imagine the job description. You must have:

  • The patience of a saint
  • A brilliant poker face
  • Wonderful artistic skills
  • The ability to cry once an hour, with credibility

I remember when my sister got married, we’d been to a few boutiques and my mum turned to me, genuinely concerned that she had a heart of stone as she hadn’t cried yet.

Shouldn’t I have cried yet or something?

Ha…my mother may be brutally honest, but she definitely does not own a heart of stone. The perfect blend for wedding dress shopping crew.

I guess there are so many swell dresses out there that it’s pretty hard to decide which one will be your one. I was really lucky and mostly had some really fun/funny/lovely experiences trying on dresses.  It makes me sad when friends say they haven’t had a great time trying on dresses. It kinda sucks if you’ve been looking forward to something and you end up feeling fugly.

My advice is to just do your research and make sure the boutiques you’re going to accommodate your size and style in advance, so that you don’t a) dread your appointment or b) get a nasty surprise when you arrive.  I’d also suggest being open to the suggestions of the boutique owners – I ended up with a style I didn’t even know existed for wedding dresses, and now am 100% certain that I’ve found a goodun.

For more of my advice ch-ch-check out my wedding dress recommendations page. As long as you’ve got time on your side, don’t put too much pressure on it. You’ll find a dress that you look HOT in. But there isn’t only ONE dress out there for you, I truly believe that. Just take your time, go with your instincts, have a G&T and all will be fine yo!

If you’re feeling stressed, have a look at my ‘ME TIME‘ recommendations page on Pinterest. And breaaaathe.

HAPPY BLOODY FRIDAY BRIDELINGS!! Is there anything better than a Friday night? Of course not, pa. Not long now. Big smooches x 

Coming soon: Second-hand dresses but first-class taste…who’s been to the Oxfam boutique wedding dress boutique?

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I'm a 32 year-old newlywed bride, living in London. I recently got married (July 2016) and am here to spread wedding joy and worldly wedding advice to fellow bridelings who don't want their weddings to take over their lives. Let's laugh (nervously) in the face of bonkers wedding planning!

4 thoughts on “Wedding dresses: is there too much pressure to find ‘the one’?

  1. You’re right, waaaaaayyyy too much pressure on the dress. I found the experience underwhelming in the extreme!! I love my dress but it’s not the be all and end all, it’s just a pretty dress I feel good in 🙂 xxx


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